Romance Leads to Sex

From one of you
"You are a precious mentor for all of us, Sumner.  I love the courage you have, to hit head on the issues of loving each other.   Without shame, without excuse, without whispering - we can talk about these things in the Body of Christ."

Romance leads to sex
Sex is that intimacy in the home that God says, "May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth.  A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love" Pro. 5:18-19. Did YOU get that? God means for His children to enjoy this wonderful physical expression of love between a husband and wife.

Sex and Security
Of course, there are exceptions to every rule but here is a very big rule of life, men have a strong urge, desire, and need for sex, usually much more so than women. Women have a strong urge, desire, need for security. Think of this carefully. There are female prostitutes by the millions. Why? Men have this hugh urge and often will do anything to satisfy that urge. Studies have shown that even clergymen will go to prostitutes. That blows my mind. Most of the time, men want this intimacy several times a week. Many women, if not most, would be satisfied being intimate once a month. I read the advice columns in the news papers daily and you hear this over and over.

Women and security
Women need security. They get their security from their husbands by his attention to them in hundreds of ways. Women give sex for security and men give security for sex. There is more truth to this statement than can be explained. Learn it and practice your part and it will transform the physical side of your marriage. Women are freed and released to give themselves to their husbands when he shows his attention to her and showers her with his attention. Women who understand his strong urge and need and who understand Prov. 5: 19, "may you ever be captivated by her love" and that God meant for it to be enjoyed, can be fulfilled and enjoy this intimacy much more.

Most men are more than glad to obey this admonition. Too often, women and Christian women especially, do not have a healthy attitude toward intimacy. It could be a lack of knowledge of this Biblical truth, that sex is good and to be enjoyed between a husband and wife. The world has perverted this intimacy in so many ways and it effects all of us. Sometimes it is the husbands fault for he does not "agape" love her, give her the attention she needs and does not prepare her by his tender touching, beginning with that goodby kiss in the morning and continuing to show his love through the day. Selah, "Think on this."

One thing I heard somewhere was the word "intimacy" and how it relates to God and to our spouse.
   
               INTIMACY  =   "INTO ME SEE"

That is how God wants us to KNOW Him and for a husband and wife to KNOW each other...."into me see."

O dear people, be that spouse that your spouse needs to beautify and magnify your marriage to the highest level. all because of Calvary, sumner

Prayer:  Father, bless this dear couple and make their marriage the best they have every known. In Jesus name.