More on Marriage

"You must teach what is in accord with sound doctrine: Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children" Titus 2:1-4.

Love your husband
The word "love" is Philos, it is friendship love, you should be the BEST FRIEND HE HAS. Sumner, do you mean young women need to be TAUGHT how to love their husbands? You had better believe it. That is what this verse is saying.

How to love your husband
"Exhort (encourage) one another daily, Heb. 3:13. Man doesn't live by bread alone, he needs buttering up "daily." If you dear wives learn this we men are sunk, we will be melted butter in your hands.

Men need admiration
Wives need attention men need admiration. Men are wired with this macho chromosome, this male ego. It is no more wrong or evil than the wives need for attention, the need to be noticed by her husband. (More on this next time.)

I mentored a man who rose like a rocket in his firm. He was greatly admired by all in his company. Everything he did went right. All day he would hear one accolade after another. He would come home and his wife had seen and knew all of his faults and pointed them out routinely. It crushed him. Jesus said, "A prophet (a man) is not without honor but in his own country and among his own kin and IN HIS OWN HOUSE" Mark 5:4. Believe me dear ladies, he desperately wants and needs your admiration, your praise, your encouragement. If you want his TLC let him know he is the greatest guy in all the world. You do this, daily, and you will have him wrapped around your little finger.

He was put down on the job
Maybe he was put down, crushed, scorned, messed up on the job and he needs that reassurance from the one he loves the most, his wife. Give it to him and you will be the queen on the throne every day. Yes, you need that TLC everyday but I have learned that women are far more apt to lead the way in the home, to be the wife she needs than he is to be the husband h needs to be. It is often like a game of checkers, its your move.

A lady told me she was brought up not to brag on people. Well, you had better learn to brag on your husband, rave about him and he will be putty in your hands.

Prayer:  Father, bless this home. So much is expected of men to day. Help this wife to make her husband the greatest guy on earth, for her good and for Your glory. IN Jesus name

Wives Love your Husband

Wives, you have a special promise

Likewise, ye wives, be in submission to your own husbands, that, if any obey not the word, (the Word of God) they may without "a" word in the Greek (of nagging or begging from you) be won by the conversation (behavior) of the wives" 1 Peter 3:1.

Love the stew out of him
" So that you have sincere love for your brothers, love one another deeply, from the heart " 1 Peter 1:22. This goes for husbands and wives as well as "the brethren." Make sense? Do everything in your power to make him feel good about himself, "brag on him" and believe me, he will feel good about you. Make sense. Remember, I laid it on him in the last email to "love your wife as Christ loved the church" Eph 5:25.

Help make him be the spiritual leader Here is a husband who doesn't read his Bible, doesn't pray as he ought, doesn't go to church etc. What is a wife to do? She is to be in submission (spiritually) "as unto the Lord" Eph. 4:22.

"If they want to inquire about something, they should ask their own husbands at home" 1 Cor. 14:35. Now, if we preachers and teachers will do our part correctly, we will ask women who ask us questions about the Bible and spiritual things if they have asked their husbands. If they have not we should not give them the answers but tell them to go ask their husband like the Bible says. I do this all the time. If they say, "but he is not a Christian" or "he is not spiritually minded," it does not matter. They should show him this verse and tell them "I am to be in submission to you" and you must give me an answer.

Adorn yourself
The most beautiful garment she owns did not come from Saks of Fifth Avenue but from the wardrobe of heaven, "while they behold your chaste behavior coupled with fear...the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit, which IN THE SIGHT OF GOD is of great price" 1 Peter 3:3. The only way you get that beautiful garment is to "walk in the Spirit" Gal 5:16. Get my book, "How ON Earth Can I Be Spiritual" and learn how to be "Filled with the Spirit" and "How to Walk in the Spirit."

Your spiritual ministry
You can "win him, " you can make him become a man of God as he is graciously forced to get spiritual answers. What a spiritual ministry you have to the one you love, the one you left your mother and father for and who became the father of your dear children. It is a terrible tragedy when women let their husbands pass off the spiritual role of the home to their wives. Doesn't this make sense? Minister to your husband. Rave about him at every step he takes to be the spiritual leader he must be. Much more to come for husbands and wives. Tell your friends and family.

O dear lady, if you "love your husband" your will do all you can to be submissive and urge him on to be the man of God for you and your family.

Prayer:  Father, bless these dear women and adorn them in the gorgeous garments of God You have for them so they can win their husbands to You, In Jesus name.